To Absent Friends: Murray Lerman

MurrayMurray Lerman, our oldest classmate, an experienced financial advisor who became a grandfather during our first semester, died in March of 2006 at the ripe old age of 76.

A true father figure, Murray provided Section 6 with a good role model (and a little parental supervision) during our first year.  Here’s a sample of his wisdom, a wonderful essay he wrote for The Restatement giving advice to “non-traditional students” like himself:

You will begin to feel the questioning stares of classmates and see the raised eyebrows of professors who wonder what in the world the admissions committee was thinking. One professor commented to me last year that he remembers when a woman was an oddity in his class, and now he has to deal with grandfathers.

Do not try to conduct yourself on the same life-style level as your younger classmates. You will find them brilliant and inexhaustible. You, however, will not be able to attend class most of the day, spend four hours at Woody’s, eat dinner, study into the early hours of the morning, get up at dawn, go to a job, and then start the process all over again.

Make friends among your younger classmates. Besides helping you rid yourself of the feeling of an outsider, you will find the association stimulating. You may find yourself acting as a substitute parent figure, so listen with sympathy to their social, sexual, and academic problems. Likewise, you are going to need their support as it gets closer to “making the grades.”

Above all, fight solemnity. For some perverse reason, there is a perception that if you are senior to your colleagues, you are required to act more serious and formal. Laugh! Humor is where you find it, and may be available in the most deadly class. Remember, all this shall pass into fond remembrance someday.

–Mike Morley

Please share your memories of Murray in the comments.

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2 thoughts on “To Absent Friends: Murray Lerman

  1. mseuphrates

    Thank you SO MUCH! I was just looking up my dad’s obituary to get the date for someone, and I stumbled across this article. I’ve read his article in “The Restatement” before (I believe my sister has a copy), and as a non-traditional student myself (currently in nursing school), it’s always spoken to me. 🙂 He has been my example that you’re “not done until you’re dead, and even then you can go to medical school” (for those unaware, after spending his later years being teased about when he was going to medical school, since it was the only thing he hadn’t done yet, he actually donated his body to the University of Cincinnati Medical School when he died). So thank you, for this lovely memorial and memory.
    Lisa Dugan Manor (nee Lerman – mother of that grandchild he had his first year of law school) 🙂

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  2. uclaw89babym Post author

    Lisa:

    Thank you for sharing your remembrance with us. When I arrived at law school orientation, about to start my second career at age 25, your father was the second person I met. I took some comfort in having him there, as I’d expected to be the only “old guy” in the class, and I was glad not to be alone in that category!

    Please feel free to call me at my office some time if you want to trade reminiscences.

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